root cause analysis

I think people turn two kinds of ways at the first fork each one of us has to encounter. The first time we become aware of our roots and what we choose to do with them. Most people I know, including myself, choose to run. Some faster and harder than others. The majority in denial that they are actually running but it shows in every single decision they make as they are growing into adulthood. When asked about the whys and the hows, the answer inevitably includes something from their childhood or parents. Choosing the opposite of what they were exposed to as children. Unable or unwilling to embrace all the gifts that come with where they heralded from, instead struggling to turn themselves into something that they were never born to be. And yes I get it, the driving force for the majority of people is to overcome and leave behind what they feel was an un-nurturing wasteland. A war zone of survival. And since it appeared to be such an overwhelming struggle to set yourself free, you are no longer capable to remain open to those people. Most times leading to severing the ties physically, but definitely almost always emotionally. Burying these feelings so deeply, that they become your auto response anytime a situation arises that emotionally sets you back to that time. But when you open yourself up to the realization that it took exactly where you came from to blossom you into what you were born to be, suddenly all these gifts come into your presence. Forgiveness. Gratitude. Endurance. Mercy. Grace. Faith. What you perceived to be an unjust struggle was only the fertilizer for your growth.