everything you deserve and then some

I have this thing with words. When someone opens their mouth, I can become almost entranced if they have superb vocabulary. It falls in the lines of this famous quote:

“So avoid using the word ‘very’ because it’s lazy. A man is not very tired, he is exhausted. Don’t use very sad, use morose. Language was invented for one reason, boys – to woo women – and, in that endeavor, laziness will not do”. – Dead Poet’s Society, N.H Kleinbaum.

At the same token, I can get turned off by words. Not the mere words obviously, but the clear association with each. I have a mental list of least favorite words and I do my best to avoid using them. Ever. One on the top of that list is: Deserve.

To be worthy of.

Every time someone utilizes that word the immediate thought pops up “You don’t say? Who crowned you King or Queen of the day?” It makes me flinch inside. If you judge yourself to be worthy of something, be it material, physical, emotional, with the association of having earned it, then you must have been at a “less than” starting point. Why would you think of yourself that way? Why would you look at yourself as having to qualify to get what you want out of life? I have oodles of examples. You know that one: Someone’s been through a string of bad relationships or a period of no relationships and finally find someone that they are “happy” with. What do her or his friends say? He/she deserves that good woman/man. You deserve anything and everything that’s good for you and good to you in life without having to struggle for or win it. Give yourself permission to open up to the abundance of life. You weren’t put here to suffer through whatever you put yourself through just to get that “reward”. You were put here to enjoy everything good that’s coming your way. Allow yourself to see that. People who tell you what you deserve, what you are worthy of, only like to keep you in that small place they themselves remain stuck in.