Catch me if you can

I am among what lately seems to be oodles of people who are single. Not in relationship with anyone. Purposefully and consciously. I’ve made up my mind a while back that whoever will be with me, shall do so for no other reason than love.

Of course all people in relationships will tell you that they love their partner. Yet for the majority of couples there are underlying, hidden ulterior motives. Like material and financial security, control issues, insecurities about oneself, inability to be alone or needing someone to fill a role because of societal conformity. And it comes out in small ways.

Like anytime you are not allowing yourself to be who you are because you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings or offend them or get them to be mad at you. Choosing to forgo activities you like or even worse, staying in a lifestyle or a job that is simply not cut out for you. I can’t recall the many times I have heard someone say they can’t “fill in the blank” because of their partner. Almost like being in a parental-child relationship.

Unless of course people choose to hide behind their partner, using them as an excuse to stay stuck in their own fears, hindering their own growth.