Becoming yourself without the flames from Hell

My friend and I were talking the other day about compatibility in a relationship. He is putting his last relationship behind and appears to be looking for someone more suitable. It was not just a long-term relationship he is getting over but apparently a tumultuous one, with an on and off again ending. As it seems to happen a lot when hanging onto a karmic connection one believes in. (It’s really not the person one hangs onto, but simply one’s own beliefs, but that’s for another blog).

So we are going over this book I’m currently reading that goes more into detail about how certain astrological aspects have influences on not just who we are as a person, but why we would be drawn to particular people we meet in life. We are reading over the chapter that pertains to his relationship and I make mention that in that sort of relationship the couple has a knack for getting into each others faces and tend to unearth those things they don’t necessarily want to face. Or at times even bringing out the worst in each other. And he says: ” that’s exactly how it was with my ex”.

I was so puzzled why he is still attached to some degree to that person, after having made that statement, all I could say was: “who would want a relationship like that?”

I totally get that when we are in the right relationship, the other person will indeed help us face things within us that we would prefer to avoid and not deal with. The key word here is help. Support. Figure out. Show us how to make it better for ourselves, therefore making it better for anyone having to deal with us. NOT stirring up those things within us with a hot poker. There are plenty of other people send into our lives who are designated just for that job. And those encounters should be extremely short-lived.

Your life mate should be the one complementing you in your efforts for growth instead of adding fuel to the fire.