Leaving good enough alone

The things you don’t struggle with, are not your assigned lessons to learn. It’s easy to walk around and tell others to “ get on with it or "why are you making such a big deal out of it” when it’s not your lesson to master. The “leaving good enough alone” was one that took me all my life to learn.

The bending over backwards, reaching out to people who don’t reach back, the “slamming the door flat in your face” scenarios have finally played out its final scene in my Life. [ As I am tightening up my backbone here :) ]. I’m not saying there won’t be more actors appearing on stage to challenge my comprehension of this lesson plan. But now that I know what it’s all about, it’s so much easier to recognize it as it saunters across my Life stage, no matter how many different disguises it takes on to try and fool me.

I have had my fair share of encounters with people where I have been the one putting forth most, if not all the effort to stay connected. To maintain some kind of “-ship”. You know, friendship, companionship, relationship. I’m not sure why I had such a hard time letting go of keeping bricks afloat when beautiful leaves just float all on their own. Meaning that the people who belong in your life will float right beside you with no bearance on your behalf. Nor theirs for that matter.

I think it had a lot to do with my contorted opinion of others seeming superficial, keeping their connections so light and loose, that if the connection fell apart, they didn’t lose any sleep over it. In retrospect I would have to change my “judgment” of them from being callous to actually being wise enough to know what’s good for them. Holy mama, I swear, some lessons just don’t come easy