Man up or step off

This is just one of my very personal opinions of my very opinionated repertoire.

Man up or step off.

My youngest child was

adopted by my ex-husband ( not his biological father) with me remaining the full custodial natural parent. There’s a long story behind that but the bottom line for me is:

You can not have your s&@#t together all you want. Make that your personal business. Don’t make it your child’s business.

Obviously everyone has to make their own decisions when it comes to having children and how to raise them. I am the last person to tell you how you ought to live out your life. My decision to have the biological father’s rights terminated was based on one personal belief of mine.

You have been whatever age your child is going through at any given time in your life. You have been a newborn, a toddler, a school-age child, adolescent, etc. Whatever happened at any given age you were, was your experience to have. You do NOT go back and act like you can re-experience what you feel like you have been missing out on. I don’t wanna hear that crap that you never got to do “fill in the blank” when you were whatever age. Your time has passed to be that certain age.

Don’t use your child as a psychological smoke screen to continue on your unwillingness to own up to the choices you have made. Simple as that. Do whatever it takes to get you where you should be in your life. WITHOUT making that your child’s responsibility.