Strutting my own stuff

Sexy. It finally made it on my least favorite word list.

Sexy- Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.

In it’s primary definition, that’s exactly what it means. Yet the word gets tossed around all over the place. Sprinkled on everything and anything to give it the connotation to be desirable.

If you are not one of the “sexy” people, your life must be lame. That’s the insinuation behind it. I can tell you, I do not want to be sexy. To everyone crossing my path. There’s a few paid professions out there for that, and I am not in that business. Nor do I have the desire to work any of the affiliated jobs that require you to arouse sexual desire or interest in someone else.

I had a job once, where the administrative clerks were referred to as sexitaries. And they all seemed to enjoy being referred to as such. Key word seemed. I never discussed how they truly felt about it. But again, the connotation that if you weren’t part of the sexitaries, you were no fun to work with, therefore not desirable.

Sexy has come to be a slick-over for people ( yes, men and women) to conform to an extremely abnormal image of what humans actually are. A fallacy that people fall into to maintain an image they would like to uphold about themselves lest they’d be one of the undesirable ones.

Sex in and of itself is part of our natural human function. No more, no less. Depending on your beliefs accumulated from your culture, your religion, your psychosocial and familial background, you interpret it to be anything else but that. People may see it as a lifelong commitment to their true love or a spiritual connection. Others see it as pleasure to behold power over. It obviously turns into all sorts of addictions and dysfunctions. As observed by the over- and misuse of the word sexy.

I’m okay not being sexy. I only want to arouse sexual desire or interest in someone I have an intimate relationship with. That person could call me sexy all day, even though there’s a whole lot more adjectives out there that I would prefer being called. Such as the ones that would make me desirable to them beyond sex.