The inconvenience of convenience

I am a people person. If you are not my people, I am not your

person to hang out with.

A very simple statement that has been a fact for me all my life. I frankly can’t oblige the convenience of societal standards and share myself with people who don’t feed me on some kind of level. That sort of convenience only leads to the inconvenience of taking time and energy away from essential things. The more difficult part for me was to not allow the wish of connecting with "my people" to influence the value and appreciation of myself.

I don’t consider myself a snob. Due to my lifestyle, I spend a tremendous amount of time, and therefore energy, with all sorts of people because of the circumstances of the situation. I.e. work, school, interaction with people who have anything to do with my children, etc. So I don’t have any desire whatsoever to spend myself on people who are not “my people” during the limited free time that is available to me. It’s a matter of priority to me.

I rather have five minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of misery. I will go out of my way on making arrangements, taking time out of my day, going the physical distance or paying the cost to get together with “my people”. And that’s where I definitely learned to draw the line. Not the easy way, of course. A lesson is a lesson after all. So the people who are “my people” have to meet me some kind of way. Finally. If they don’t have the reciprocal consideration of our connection, than I rather spend my time to myself, by myself instead.

At last, no more people pleasing.