A matter of Trust

There’s been an addition to my tiny circle the last few months. We are of the same people, literally and figuratively. Obviously making it easier to understand why we connected. But what is holding us together beyond that? It’s a matter of trust.

In picking and choosing who enters your circle, what is your criteria. Do you make it a conscious decision, where you rule out certain admissions based on your check list of qualifications? Barring people from you that could potentially be essential to your growth. Or do you allow your gut to guide you? Listening to how you feel when you are in their presence vs following some made up guideline you were told to follow.

As I was pondering about this new connection and feeling grateful for the addition to my life, I was trying to figure out what the common thread is that allows people into my circle. It is without fail trust. Not one-sided, but reciprocal. I trust these people to be honest with me. I trust these people to tell the truth. Not just the truth about myself. You know that constructive criticism we all dislike yet so desperately need if we ever want to grow beyond ourselves. No, I trust these people to also speak their own truth. To me. Holding the gentle balance of being themselves whilst being with me. As I am being me in their midst.

It’s the Blood and Guts connection. These people have seen me at my best and my worst. They have seen sides of me that I haven’t seen myself before. Yet they remain with me. For they trust me that I will remain at their side when they are at their best and at their worst. Allowing them to be what they have to be in these moments to get through life.