For-get-me-not

We had our Kaffeeklatsch again this weekend. As always, all sorts of topics came up with everyone putting their spin on it, verbalizing how they perceived the topics discussed. One of them was the big to do about forgive and forget.

There are so many people who are still in the mind frame of “ I can’t forgive that”. But as long as you are not for-giving, you are not “giving” yourself the peace you so desperately seek from whatever offended or hurt you in the first place. As we all know, forgiving has nothing to do with the other person owning up to their actions that caused the harm. Depending on where they are in their spiritual evolvement, they may not ever see any harm they may have caused. So you literally have to take Jesus’s words:” Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

If you don’t forgive as a first step, the burden is only yours to carry until you do. Giving yourself your own peace of mind requires for-giving.

So the forgetting part is even harder for most people. The funny thing is, forgive and forget go hand in hand. You can’t do one without the other. “ Oh, is that so?” you say…You’re thinking you don’t want to ever forget so you can protect yourself from any future harm, right?

But if you don’t forget, you have that memory permanently stored in your body, and any time something comes up to trigger that memory, you will respond in the same way. The memory of the harm done expresses itself over and over again. If you don’t for-get, you are “getting” the exact same thing you are trying to avoid.