I'm not here to burst your bubble

I’m back on my relationship horse. The other day a couple friends of mine and I were talking about relationship, with each of us being in a different status. One of us is drawn to someone without being able to put his finger on it, yet not having established a solid relationship with this person. The other has been dating someone who appeared to be perfect, meeting all pre-selected criteria, but there is nothing there that holds his attention, nothing there that draws him into her. Me, I am currently committed single. Committed to myself.

I don’t think I ever really dated. I’m not even sure what that means. And I don’t have an interest in it. I am interested in hanging out with people I can actually relate to. How deep or close the level of intimacy becomes, will usually play itself out according to how the cards fall. But the majority of people I know are on some kind of relationship track. They have that prefabricated fantasy on what they think it should be or what they want it to be. Holding on to a framework of an idea about relationship. I am not clear on where they actually get those ideas from. Obviously no person holds true to their preconceived notions about them. So there has to be some sort of skewed reality if they think someone fits into this container of an idea that they have about something.

I don’t have a problem with it. I’m not here to burst their bubble. But I am also not the one that will oblige their fantasy world. Sooner or later they will see sides of me that do not fit the image they are holding of me.

The only question for me is: Are you willing to experience me as I am? Are you willing to experience yourself as you are through me?

“There is such an emphasis on happiness in our culture that we’re conditioned away from the fullness of the human experience” ~ Mark Nepo ( from The Endless Practice) http://marknepo.com

Poetry by Heike K https://www.facebook.com/Heimweh-Fernweh-Sehnsucht-6867101…/