The Great Un-Wanting

In the last couple of weeks, there has been somewhat of a higher turn-over rate in “relationship” status. At least around me. People are in and out of relationship like changing shirts. That one shrunk after the first wash, this one I never really liked anyways, this one I only wore because it was called for for the occasion, etc. I’m sure you get the picture here.

So it really confuses the hell out of me when people come to me about relationship advise. I can’t even imagine how the other party, who is involved, feels about this revolving door treatment. Again, I don’t date, so I can’t give you dating advise. I don’t know the rules of the games, because that is exactly what it is to me, and I don’t care to play it. To each its own, is my motto, so I don’t necessarily go off on a high horse and berate those people seeking my advice about what a waste of time it is, in my opinion. And that’s just it. It’s my opinion. You may choose to do whatever you see fit for yourself.

But the one thing I always ask is: “What is it that you are actually looking for?” I mean in these days and times, it’ s not like we have to come in with a dowry. But it sure looks like it to me as an outsider. Obviously I am not talking about the literal dowry from days long gone, at least where I live [ it is unfortunately still happening in a lot of other parts of the world though]. I am talking about the unquenchable need for people to have someone fill something that they themselves can only fill.

There is not enough love you can attempt to obtain from others if you have not learned to love yourself. If you are miserable in a room alone, any company you add to it will only exponentially increase your misery. If you need another to fill a role, you don’t have to go through a pretentious relationship to have that role filled. Everything’s up for service nowadays, of course for exchange of money. Why anyone would be willing to provide a “service” or play a role without being properly compensated for it, is beyond me.

So then that pretty much leaves only one more thing that people are looking for. That special connection. You can look for relationship, but you can’t look for love. For THAT connection. Love will come and find you, when you are ready. Have you cleared the path, meaning have you worked out YOUR issues, for love to arrive at your front door? Because only then will you be able to give as much love as you have for yourself without any wanting whatsoever.