On Duty Free Assignments or simply taking care my Love

I recently had this interesting conversation with someone. It sort of started out about how we have changed over the years, including our outlook on life.

Then the conversation got a bit more in debt. And the bottom line became: if something happens to you, do you have your wishes taken care of when you yourself become incapable of doing so? I can assure you, there are more of us who do not have that spelled out. For one, the majority of us do not want to be bothered with legalities of any matter. But if you don't bother with the legalities, you will end up leaving the decisions to be made about what happens to you, in the hands of people who have the legal right to do so. Hopefully they know you well enough to know what you would want. That legal entitlement does not necessarily equal into those people advocating on your best interest. So if you are in any sort of legally discombobulated circumstance, it would might sort of be important to have your wishes written out in legal jargon. If you care about such matters.

But that’s just really the surface of the conversation. Really what it boiled down to was the fact that we each are fully responsible for the choices we make for our better good. Yes, there are indeed far too many circumstances, where we end up having to deal with a bad card on the poker table of life. Nevertheless, it is up to us to take care of ourselves, no matter what the circumstances are.

When I was younger, I was definitely fool enough to attempt to take care of someone else. The problem with that is, you really can’t. Again, there are circumstances where you end up taking care of people who are incapable, due to their physical and mental incapacitation, to do so for themselves. That’s a whole different scenario. I am talking about those people who are as capable as you yourself, to take care of themselves, yet make the conscious choices to live less than healthy lifestyles and continue lethal habits. Be it financial, emotional, spiritual or physical.

I can clearly separate myself from that mindset now. I have absolved myself from feeling responsible for how other people choose to screw up their life. You screw up once, it’s a mistake, the second time you make that same choice, it’s already a conscious decision. If you don’t care enough about your well-being, don’t make it someone else’s responsibility. In the end, it will be you that will have to pay the full price of your choices.