Being renounced and other blessings in life

I have been rejected all my life. Even as a youngster, I met rejection at every other corner. Now, as a child, the rejection had much more to do with what family I came from. Not being accepted into certain circles. That sort of thing. For some reason, it never fazed me to that degree that I felt stigmatized by it. I just kept exploring different sorts of people and groups that were part of my hometown scenery as I was growing up.

Then as a young adult, it was the rejection of employers. Always searching for what they think of as an ideal employee, being rejected was not unusual. The common “ we have found a candidate more suitable for the position” response. I think we all get rejected on our path of finding employment. And then of course, there is the personal arena. If I had a buck for all the personal rejections in my life, I could start a rather juicy retirement fund.

For the majority of the time, every rejection coming my way, be it business or personal, I internalized it at having to make improvements. On myself. I reinvented myself a hundred times over, trying to become that candidate that is more suitable for the position. But even once the acceptance notices started coming in, I was still not suitable. For that position or that relationship. Because I attempted to shape myself into an image that would be acceptable by others, which was not the true me. Eventually that true me would fight to come to the surface again, demanding to know what I was doing to myself. So I stopped. I stopped taking rejections as looking at myself as not being good enough and started viewing them as a redirection notice. It wasn’t that I was not good enough for whatever place or person. It wasn’t even that that place or person was not good enough for me. No. It simply was that it was not a fit. And why would I want to fit in somewhere or with someone when I clearly fit out.

I’m not saying rejection is easy. Rejection actually does hurt. Until you can see it for what it is. Some people are swifter at that than others. But rejections truly are a blessing in disguise because they circumvent having to go through unnecessary growing pains. They are in essence a short cut to get you to where you really belong. All I can tell you is, don’t take rejection too much to heart. See it as the Universe telling you that you are good enough as you are, you are just not in the right place yet to welcome that notion within yourself.