Fibers, Substance and your right to be

Not so long ago, when I was out in public somewhere, I was passing a father and his daughter on the sidewalk and I caught part of the conversation he was having with her. She looked to be about nine years old, all ears glued to Dad still, as he admonished her about saying “ sorry”. I don’t know what had occurred, but obviously in the opinion of Dad, the little girl said sorry for something she shouldn’t be sorry for. In essence he was trying to tell her that she has every right to take up her space in this world and there is no need to apologize for taking up the space assigned by the Divine. The little girl looked up at him and replied “Yes, daddy, I’m sorry daddy”. He threw his hands up in the air and lamented “here you go again”, as I couldn’t help but laugh at watching this.

I can’t say for certain, but being female, I have been under the impression that it is much easier for males to take up their space. Now that is in regards to the general surroundings. I am completely aware that there is a totally different pecking order if you put just all males together in any sort of setting. It just came to mind today as I was helping a male friend pick up a car from across town today. We drove there to retrieve the vehicle, and since he was the one knowing the way back, I followed him after we picked up the truck. At one point, he made it through the traffic light, whereas I was left behind at the red light. Not knowing that part of town, I was completely fine being somewhere I was not familiar with. No, there is no GPS in the vehicle and I didn’t have my phone with me either. Regardless, I was fine. It took me a lifetime to have faith in that I will always be and end up where I need to be. So even if I am somewhere “lost”, despite the fact that I am directionally challenged, I now “know” I will be just fine.

And then of course there is my friend, waiting up for me in the middle of the road, the turning lane section that splits up the two way street. Not giving a shit that he is taking up all sorts of space with his truck in the middle of midday traffic. He has always been that way. He has never had a problem taking up his space. Even if he does not have that awareness on a conscious level, he definitely has it on a subconscious level. Honestly, I have always admired that. Not just in him, but in anyone who has that natural sense of taking up their space. Not overstepping it and invading other people’s spaces, but simply taking up their own space.

It is still a challenge for me to this day to hold my own space at times, depending on what energies are surrounding me, notwithstanding that I am an energy to be reckoned with in real life myself. It has been one of my focus points to instill that sense in my own children. Just as this dad was attempting to do with his daughter. We all should teach this sense of right to our children. Holding their own space without caving in. After all, we are all part of the fabric that holds the Universe together as it is woven by the Divine.