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It’s not so much that anyone ever changes. Including ourselves. It’s more so that we are not “seeing” what we have come to expect to see in someone that gives it the appearance of change. Yet nothing grows out of the seed that isn’t contained within it. Everything that has ever been is contained within us. It’s just a matter of being unlocked and rising to the surface. Be it by our own intent, or by the nurture or negligence of our environment that brings forth what is already contained within us. It is really just a matter of degrees to see someone “in a different light”. This always includes ourselves, of course. Time shifts the viewpoint by a matter of degrees, allowing us to see ourselves and others from a different vantage point. Other people shift the viewpoint by a matter of degrees. When you observe someone you know interacting with another person, most likely without them being aware that you are watching, you can see a whole different side of them that you have been either blind to or not privileged to witness. We are undermining our interrelatedness when we insist on only seeing what we have come to expect. Diminishing the other person into a minute aspect of their totality. Shrinking ourselves into the limits we have set for ourselves and our life. This is a large part of relationships not staying alive. It seems so much easier to hold on to what we have come to expect from someone rather than experiencing them as they are. When we do not relinquish the need to cling to particular constants, it gives us the illusion of consistency in our attempts to stay afloat out of the sheer fear of drowning in the stream of life. But there is no drowning. Only always a different way of being. ~•~ a beautiful milieu ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ “Do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know the side you are used to is better than the one to come?” Rumi